Book Excerpts

R U Assertive? Stand up Skills for Teenagers

Introduction to Teenagers
From Introduction

"In many ways assertive skills can smooth out relationships with family members, as well as help you meet your goals and needs. Assertive skills will support you in not having to guess or wonder in your mind what the other person meant; you will not have to interpret what is unspoken, unsaid. You will begin to ask questions that will clear up what you want and you need to know."

 
What Are Assertive Skills and Why Are They Important?
From Chapter 1

"There are four different styles or methods of communication: aggressive, passive, passive-aggressive,

and assertive. The style that is the most effective is called assertive. The assertive style is more

effective than the other types of communication styles because assertive skills come from a place of

ownership or knowing what you want. You are speaking for yourself and are balancing the skills that

involve taking care of yourself and communicating with others."

 

Self Knowledge Leads to Self-Advocacy
From Chapter 4

"Self-advocacy is a way of taking care of yourself. To be a self-advocate means to know yourself and

to speak up for yourself. Why does self-advocacy matter? To be a self-advocate is powerful because

you are in charge of yourself. Your parents are your first advocates and, hopefully, they have modeled

for you how to speak up for yourself and take care of yourself. However, there may be another person

as good as you at taking care of yourself. Who is in the best position to take care of you? To know you?
To speak up for you? You are. Your job is to be your best advocate.
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Learning Disabilities, Dyslexia, AD/HD and NLD
From Chapter 5

"This chapter is included in this book because learning differences and attention problems have potential to diminish or even to destroy your ability to express yourself. If you learn differently or if you are inattentive, distractible, or impulsive, there is a far greater chance that you will be misunderstood by your peer group, by the adults in your life, by family members, etc. One way to combat the challenges that come with learning and attention problems is for you to be more deeply in touch with your needs and to effectively use assertive skills. Students who learn differently or who have attention deficits may have a greater need for assertive skills. This is because they are more likely to miss cues, to be distracted (internally and externally), and to be impulsive."